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Back to Basics December 25, 2009

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Winter is a time of hibernation for the grizzly bear, but unlike my namesake I cannot curl up in a cozy den somewhere and dream away the chilly months. Instead of a literal hibernation, (being dormant does not sound so appealing actually) I can use this time to withdraw, reflect and regroup. With the New Year coming so closely to the Winter Solstice, it’s kind of hard to ignore the seasonal and cultural urgings to look inward.  This is the literally the darkest time of the year, and while so often the dark encourages fear, I can rebel against this inclination and come out with the light in the spring stronger and happier. (I’m digging this website’s description of the winter solstice… pretty much everything I wanted to say)

While I’m no psychologist, my googleing led to a list of basic emotions that most psychologists seem to agree on.  To help me cultivate resolutions for the New Year I am going to reflect on these six emotions and brainstorm what I can do to help me handle them.

  • Anger
  • Disgust
  • Fear
  • Happiness
  • Sadness
  • Surprise

Anger:

  1. Being Disrespected:  I am a soft-spoken blonde.  While I consider myself fairly intelligent, I prefer to be light-hearted then serious most of the time.  This combination often results in being taken advantage of and/or not taken seriously.
  2. Unfairness:  One of the ‘aha grown up moments’ is when you realize life is not fair.  Balance does not come by grace but by actions.  So when I experience blatant perversions and manipulations of justice it makes me sick.

Disgust:

  1. Greed/Gluttony/Waste:  These are all kind of connected for me.  In my own life I hate wasting food (whether it be through overeating or going bad) and a little part of me cringes every time I throw something in the trash.

Fear:

  1. Failure
  2. Rejection
  3. Dissatisfaction:  While the above pretty much speak for themselves, dissatisfaction is probably my greatest fear.  I am terrified of looking back on my life and feeling as though I have accomplished nothing.  In a lot of people’s opinion my life is somewhat accomplished, I have a degree, I’ve traveled, I’ve had different experiences.  So I understand that this is a state of mind that I need to cultivate.

Happiness:

  1. Helping others:  It’s a good kind of selfish 🙂
  2. Loving:  I love being in love, and not necessarily just romantic love.  I love having strong connections with other people, activities etc.
  3. Sense of Accomplishment:  The main reason I am training for a marathon.  It’s also why I think I’ll be a life long student; despite the work and anguish nothing beats the feeling of handing in that last paper or finishing that final exam.

Sadness:

  1. Guilt:  Guilt for moving away from my family, guilt for not being a better friend, a better daughter, a better sister.   Guilt for not being a better part of society and doing all I can for humanity and the environment.
  2. Ineptitude:  Hmm, pretty much ties in with the above

Surprise:  I’m going to leave this one open.  Besides saying that I love surprises and am an enthusiastic supporter of spontaneity.

Alright, I know this blog is been pretty mood and kind of a downer.  I just have to get through this fundamental emotional stuff and then hopefully I’ll be a bit more light-hearted and jolly.

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